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How many times have we tried to change our own habits, only to find that changing ourselves is even harder than trying to change someone else? Now, what the bestselling Have a New Kid by Friday has done for families and Have a New Husband by Friday has done for couples, Have a New You by Friday will do for individuals. With his signature wit and commonsense psychology, Dr. Kevin Leman will walk readers through their own personal five-day action plan. Readers will come to -accept the truth about themselves -boost their confidence by identifying the lies they're telling themselves--and putting them to rest for good-change their lives by concentrating on becoming who they really want to beBased on content from The Real You, Have a New You by Friday is the way to a happier, more fulfilling life.

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Publié par	Baker Publishing Group
Date de parution	01 septembre 2010
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781441213686
Langue	English

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Are You a Candidate to Read This Book?
Are You a Candidate to Read This Book?
Take our quiz to find out. Simply mark Y for Yes or N for No on the line before each entry.
About You
___ I’m overwhelmed, overbooked, and overstressed, yet I take on more.
___ Some days I wonder where my dreams went.
___ It’s hard for me to let go of grudges or my past.
___ I find it difficult to be happy for those who succeed.
___ I tend to lose the same ten pounds over and over and over.
___ I promise myself I’ll say no but still find myself saying yes.
___ Everyone seems to do better than me.
___ I find it difficult to confront others with things they’ve done wrong—whether at home, at work, or with friends.
___ It isn’t easy for me to make or keep friends.
___ Life isn’t anything like my dreams . . . and I’m disappointed.
___ I feel bitter and angry sometimes, like I got the raw end of a deal.
___ I don’t feel like what I do is very important.
___ Many of the things I do go unnoticed by others.
___ Some days I think, I’m never going anywhere, am I? I’m just stuck.
About Others
___ Others rarely (or never) listen to me, even when I have something important to say.
___ Others drop the ball a lot. I always end up picking it up and running with it to the finish line. Otherwise the task won’t get done.
___ My sister/brother was “the perfect one” at home.
___ When others get angry, I freeze or go into super-pleaser mode.
___ Others don’t give me much respect.
___ My parents were always hard on me. I couldn’t do anything right.
___ I’m a cup-half-empty kind of person. I get down on myself a lot.
___ My family and/or co-workers take me and everything I do for granted.
___ Others act (or have acted) abusively toward me, whether in words or actions, and I just take it.
___ Every relationship I have seems to go wrong somewhere.
___ I find myself thinking, Why can’t I be more like her?
If any of these topics resonated with you and you marked even one Y, you need to not only read this book but carry it around with you.
This book will scratch where you itch.
I promise.
Have a new you by Friday? Is it possible?
To tell you the truth, it’s a scam. You can have a new you by Wednesday if you do just a few simple things. And then you can have an even better you by Friday! Keep reading, and I’ll show you how.
This is the miracle turnaround you’re looking for.
I guarantee it.
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2010 by Kevin Leman
Published by Revell a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.revellbooks.com
Ebook edition created 2010
Ebook corrections 3.20.2012, 06.20.2016, 07.06.2020
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4412-1368-6
To protect the privacy of those who have shared their stories with the author, some details and names have been changed.
Contents
Contents
Cover
Are You a Candidate to Read This Book?
Title Page
Copyright Page
Acknowledgments
Introduction
This Book Ought to Cost $199
How would you like “the new you” delivered? UPS, FedEx? (US mail is available, but at a slightly higher rate.) Or would you like the new you delivered via personal courier? With Devin Leman, it’s “satisfaction guaranteed!”
Monday
Just Who Do You Think You Are? (You Might Be Surprised)
What’s your real personality, and how did you get to be that way? And why settle for less when you can be so much more?
Tuesday
Maybe You Do Belong in the Zoo!
When you entered your family, you changed your entire family dynamic—much more than you think.
Bonus Section for the Curious
Who’s Who?
Why are these famous people the way they are? It has everything to do with their birth order
Classic Examples of Birth Order
Wednesday
Oh, the Lies We Tell . . . Ourselves
Why your early childhood memories are clues to who you are today, how you came up with your rule book, and what you can do about those sneaky lies you tell yourself about yourself.
Thursday
How Do You Spell “Love”? (My Wife Spells It V-i-s-a)
What makes you feel loved, and what does that say about you? Understanding your own style and the styles of others can smooth relational road bumps.
Friday
Shrink Thyself
You’re the expert on yourself, so why not save $225 per session to see a professional shrink? (I’m sure you have better things to spend that money on.) I’ll show you how.
Bonus Section for the Curious
How the New You Works
In relationships, at work . . . your life can be transformed with these quick suggestions.
The Top Ten Countdown to Having a New You by Friday
Notes
About Dr. Kevin Leman
Resources by Dr. Kevin Leman
Back Ads
Back Cover
Acknowledgments
Acknowledgments
With grateful thanks to my editorial power team:
Lonnie Hull DuPont, who always entertains my entrepreneurial ideas and maintains her sense of humor. (Besides that, she’s never hung up on me and never told me I was wacko.)
Jessica Miles, my eagle-eyed Revell project editor, who can spot a grammatical flaw from a hundred paces.
Ramona Cramer Tucker, who can translate Leman-speak better than anyone else. You are appreciated.
Introduction
This Book Ought to Cost $199
How would you like “the new you” delivered? UPS, FedEx? (US mail is available, but at a slightly higher rate.) Or would you like the new you delivered via personal courier? With Kevin Leman, it’s “satisfaction guaranteed!”
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
“Well, Dr. Leman,” you’re saying, “I could think of a bunch of things. How on earth could I pick just one?”
Congratulations! You’re the very person I wrote this book for. You see, there’s a reason you picked up this book. You’d like to see a few things—or many—change in your life. You may have tried other ways of helping this change along—asking a friend to hold you accountable, going to see a shrink, writing in a journal, counting to ten before you do the thing that gets you in trouble every time, etc. But have they worked? Nope. Or you would have “fixed yourself” and you wouldn’t need this book.
How many times have you committed to say no to something you know you’ll be asked to do . . . then found yourself signing up anyway? How many diets have you gone on in the last five or ten years (or more)? How many times have you lost the same ten pounds? (By modest calculation, then, someone like me has lost over 750 pounds in his lifetime.) How many times have you told yourself, I’ll never say that to my kids, then not only do you say it, but you say it with the same tone your mom or dad used with you? How many times have you felt like a gerbil in a cage, running around and around on that wheel but never really going anywhere, never accomplishing anything?
If you can relate, Have a New You by Friday is for you. Thousands of families are finding help in Have a New Kid by Friday (there’s no better “cure” for kids’ unruly, disrespectful behavior than the secrets in that book) and in Have a New Husband by Friday (watch marriages—even those destined for divorce courts—transform in just five days). Now, voila! A five-day action plan that will change your life.
If you don’t want to change your life, put this book back on the shelf now. Otherwise you’ll just be adding it to your stack of other self-help books for kindling on a cold evening.
So what does it take from you? The willingness to do a little detective work in figuring out, Just who am I? What makes me do what I do?
Did you know that every day you tell yourself lies about who you are? That you act on those lies? That those lies affect how you treat yourself and the kinds of relationships you have with others? Now’s the time to nip that lie-telling in the bud and bring the truth to light—for your own sake as well as for those you love.
Will this be easy? No, because we usually want to change other people before we think of changing ourselves. (Why do you think Have a New Kid by Friday and Have a New Husband by Friday have become bestsellers? Ah, now you’re getting it. . . .) And somehow it’s much more difficult to change ourselves. But nothing good is ever accomplished without a little hard work (or did you miss that class in elementary school?).
Take, for instance, Dr. Evan O’Neill Kane, a former chief surgeon at Summit Hospital in Kane, Pennsylvania. He knew all about hard work. A pioneer in the medical profession in the late 1800s and the early 1900s, he had seen too many deaths and disabilities caused by general anesthesia. So he was convinced that most operations could and should be done under local anesthesia (where the patient is awake during the entire procedure).
But Dr. Kane had a problem—he didn’t have any volunteers for this type of surgery. He spent a long time searching for just the right patient to try out his new procedure, but everyone was nervous (and rightly so) about being a guinea pig.
Finally, a patient volunteered to undergo the operation. On February 15, 1921, Dr. Kane performed this surgery for the first time. He removed the patient’s appendix in the operating room. Amazingly, the patient recovered so quickly that he was released from the hospital two days after surgery—an unheard-of event in the early 1900s. 1 It was a milestone success in the medical field.
Why did Dr. Kane succeed? Because he didn’t let a few road bumps stop him. Because he believed there was a better way, a safer way, to do surgery, with less risk to the patient. He realized that, with a little bit of pain (local anesthesia versus general anesthesia), the patient would be better off in the long run.
In the same way, there’s some