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What is happiness? Asking someone to define happiness is like asking him/her to define success. Happiness can mean a lot of different things, and the definition may vary from one person to another. To one person, happiness may mean having lots of possessions. To another person, happiness may mean being very successful in his or her chosen career. To still another person, happiness may simply mean having a healthy and happy family. Ask yourself: What is happiness for you?

Here's another important question: Can you control your happiness? Some people say that happiness is a choice. These people claim that you can choose to be happy, regardless of the circumstances in your life. That sounds good, but happiness is such an abstract and often fleeting state. How do we reach for it? Is it a difficult process? Can it be forced or can it be faked? We all want to grasp happiness, but how do we do that?

"Finding Our Happiness Flow" helps people just like you find the real meaning of happiness. True happiness is within your grasp, and it can be achieved by accepting what is and living in the present moment. This book will teach you how to let go of the past and the future as well as your fears, desires, hurts, and other things that get in your way of true happiness. "Finding Our Happiness Flow" will teach you how you can love your life and experience happiness everyday regardless of the circumstances. Sound too good to be true? Read and give it a try–happiness is within your grasp!

Sujets

Santé et bien-être

Confiance en soi et estime de soi

Bien-être émotionnel

Développement personnel

Bien-être

Confiance en soi

Confiance

Personal Growth

Self-help

Success

développement personnel

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Date de parution	12 mai 2015
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781456624996
Langue	English

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Finding Our Happiness Flow

by
Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.
Copyright 2015 Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.,
All rights reserved.

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Introduction

We live in a society focused on want. We want a great career, we want money, we want a wonderful soulmate, we want to succeed . . .
You have probably picked up this book because you want to be happy. That is the basis of what everyone truly wants. The good news is that you don’t need anyone or anything outside yourself to make it happen. You already have what you need, and it is inside you.
My hope is that all my writings about the pursuit of happiness will help you learn how to be happy right now. That has to be your goal, to be happy now . That has to be the goal for all of us, not money, not success, not the right love or the right looks. The goal has to be pure happiness.
Together, with this book, we will unlock the secrets of what it takes to lead happy lives, and as we move along through the chapters, I know you will indeed see your life improve.
Chapter One
The Pursuit of Happiness: What Are You Seeking?

We all search for different things. Some of us seek money, some seek fame, some seek love, and some seek health. However, I believe that what we are all ultimately searching for is happiness. “I’ll be happy if I find the love of my life . . . I’ll be happy if I get that promotion and can purchase that car . . . I’ll be happy if everyone knows my name . . . I’ll be happy if my sickness is healed . . .” The list goes on. We seem to forget that people who have love, money, fame, or health are not necessarily happy.
Instead of those things that may or may not lead to happiness, we are going to examine what does give us long-lasting happiness.
First, you should know a little about me. From a very young age, I have passionately pursued happiness, exploring what makes us happy and how exactly we can be happy. My journey has been long and arduous, but along the way, I have gained some important insights into the art of being happy, staying happy, and maintaining happiness throughout one’s life. And because I love to tell stories, I’ll be sharing plenty of anecdotes to help you learn how to do the same. I believe this is why God put me here—to impart this knowledge and help others.
I absolutely guarantee that anyone, absolutely anyone, can be happy if he or she just works at it. At our core, happiness is the thing we are all pursuing. We may be searching for it by fanatically following our favorite sports team every weekend, by searching for love in the local clubs, or by toiling daily at work, hoping to make enough money so that all will be well. In the space of this book, we will explore these different paths and find out what truly helps us to be happy, stay happy, and live a happy life.
The following story explains what happiness, at its core, is all about.
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There once was a man named Jim who constantly prayed to God for this and that, always wanting something. He prayed for more money, he prayed for true love, he prayed for his illness to be cured and his pain to disappear, and so on.
Late one night while Jim was saying his prayers, a voice began speaking to him out of nowhere. Although he felt very frightened, he finally mustered up the courage to ask, “Who is it?”
The voice answered, “I am God.”
As you can imagine, Jim was both very scared and very excited. He asked God, “Why are you here, God? What do you want?”
God replied, “Jim, you have been praying to me for many, many years, constantly asking me for this and that. I have decided that I am going to give you one last thing. It can be anything you wish. However, what you ask for will be the last thing that I ever give you, so consider carefully what you want.”
Jim was thrilled but extremely nervous. He really didn’t know what to ask for and shuddered at the thought of making an unwise choice. So, he began asking his friends for advice.
One friend advised, “Ask for money!” but a second friend warned, “No! We all know people who have lots of money but who still have lots of problems.” A third friend recommended, “Ask for a long life!” but yet another friend warned, “No! If you ask for that, you will outlive all your friends and loved ones, and you will be sad and lonely later in life.”
Jim continued to question anyone and everyone what he should ask God for, but nothing seemed right. Every idea that anyone suggested seemed to have some type of downside, making it a bad choice.
Six months later, God came to Jim again. God said, “Jim, it has been six months, and I must have your answer. What is it that you want from me?”
Jim replied, “God, may I ask you a question first?”
God smiled and responded, “Yes, Jim, of course you may ask me a question. What is it?”
And so Jim asked, “God, can you tell me what to wish for? I don’t know what I want.”
Pleased with Jim’s wisdom, God said, “Yes, Jim, I will tell you what to ask for. Jim, what you should ask for is to be content with whatever happens in your life.”
Jim grinned and nodded, finally understanding what God was trying to teach him.
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At its core, Jim’s story tells us that if we learn to be content with what we have, then we are happy. If we learn to love what life has given us, then we are happy. Yes, we might desire to make a few changes here and there, and yes, everything might not go exactly the way we initially planned. However, if we celebrate and love what we have while at the same time working toward making changes, we will lead a happy life.
Think about those words: “be content with what we have.” What does this mean for any of us? You might say, “I am in a job I don’t like. Can I be happy?” Of course! Make adjustments as best you can, but if your job satisfaction still doesn’t change, learn to be content with what you have. If you never seem to have enough money, then retrain your thinking and learn to be happy with what you have.
A scientific rule, which I reference frequently, states, “If any person in the universe can be happy with this situation, then happiness is a possibility for anyone.” In other words, if someone has cancer but is happy, it means that any of us, even if we suffer from a similar misfortune, can be happy. If someone has lost the love of his or her life but is still able to find happiness, then anyone can find happiness. Later in the book, I will elaborate much further on this idea.
I am aware that this chapter may actually inspire more questions than answers. However, stick with me, and you will find your doubts addressed. Any of us can be happy, and I want nothing more than for you to keep exploring the world of happiness with me. Happiness isn’t necessarily complicated, but it does take work. Together, let’s explore how to be happy right now!
Chapter Two
Learning How to Live Life to the Fullest: Happiness and Chocolate . . . Are They Similar?

I love chocolate! Although I try to eat a proper diet most of the time, I have definitely cultivated a taste for the sweet stuff. Thankfully, I have found a “healthier” version of chocolate that I really enjoy. I limit how often I treat myself, and I try to limit myself to this particular “healthier” kind of chocolate.
In the past, I was definitely much more indulgent in chocolate in its many forms. Many years ago when I was shopping at Costco, I found the most delicious, moist chocolate cake. And it was gigantic! The first bite was so exquisite I couldn’t help taking another and another and yet another. But, after a few bites, it wasn’t quite as good. Don’t get me wrong; the cake was excellent, but each progressive bite wasn’t quite as good as the experience of that first bite. And because the cake was so big, there was no way I could eat the entire thing in one sitting, so it lasted for quite a while. After a few days, I was pretty tired of that cake. By now you’re probably wondering, “What does chocolate cake have to do with happiness?” My answer to you is “Quite a bit!” Let me explain.
Studies have shown that when we get something that is new and wonderful, eventually we get used to it, and after a while, most of these wonderful feelings get less intense. This is true of everything—a new car, new job, favorite ice cream, sitting on the beach after weeks of work—as well as those bites of chocolate cake. When we get used to something, when the newness of it has worn off, we stop enjoying it as much.
One of the key factors of happiness is keeping things new and not getting into a rut. Then, we will enjoy life a lot more. But how do we do this? How do we keep our hearts and minds new, fresh, and alive? It is not so difficult. Let’s explore this together.
First, we must remember that it is nothing but our own mind that keeps us from viewing things as new and fresh. We tend to label or categorize things, and when we do so, we stop truly seeing them. There is a wise old saying that goes, “Once I see a sparrow and name it, I stop seeing it.” Once we have set expectations about something, we stop seeing it. The same principle applies to our experiences. Once we have a great experience—and usually we perceive this initial experience to be the most intense—we relate everything back to it and seek the same high again. But life doesn’t always give us the same high again, particularly if we compare and contrast our experiences. It is this constant comparing and contrasting that keeps us from enjoying things in the present, right here and right now, and from feeling fresh, new, and alive with a wonderful richness and fullness beyond imagination.
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