Blind to Betrayal, livre ebook

If the cover-up is worse than the crime, blindness to betrayal can be worse than the betrayal itself. Whether the betrayer is an unfaithful spouse, an abusive authority figure, an unfair boss, or a corrupt institution, we often refuse to see the truth order to protect ourselves. This book explores the fascinating phenomenon of how and why we ignore or deny betrayal, and what we can gain by transforming "betrayal blindness" into insight.

• Explains the psychological phenomenon of "betrayal blindness", in which we implicitly choose unawareness in order to avoid the risk of seeing treachery or injustice
• Based on the authors' substantial original research and clinical experience carried out over the last decade as well as their own story of confronting betrayal
• Filled with fascinating case studies involving unfaithful spouses, abusive authority figures and corrupt institutions, to name a few

In a remarkable collaboration of science and clinical perspectives, Jennifer Freyd, one of the world's top experts on betrayal and child abuse, teams up with Pamela Birrell, a psychotherapist and educator with 25 years of experience.

Preface ix

Acknowledgments xiii

1 Blind to Betrayal 1

2 Children Betrayed 10

3 The Wide Reach of Betrayal Blindness 20

4 Blind Adherence 35

5 Why Blindness? 49

6 Knowing and Not Knowing 62

7 Mental Gymnastics 71

8 Insights from Research 84

9 Betrayal Blindness Is Toxic 96

10 The Risks of Knowing 114

11 The Healing Power of Knowing 130

12 The Healing Power of Telling 141

13 Speaking Our Truth 153

14 Now I See: Facing Betrayal Blindness 162

Recommended Reading 175

Notes 177

Index 193