One-Minute Tips for Confident Communication
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For most people, great conversation doesn't come naturally, and in our day, it can feel like every time you engage someone else there's potential for miscommunication. But it doesn't have to be that way. Confident and clear communication is closer than you think. Whether you're an introvert who agonizes over what to say or an extrovert who has no trouble talking--but forgets to listen--you can improve your conversational skills with the tips found in this practical book. By harnessing the strengths of your personality style and employing practical tools for success, you will be able to· start, continue, and end a conversation· listen more effectively· enjoy yourself in the processSo read this book--then speak up!



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Date de parution 18 octobre 2022
Nombre de lectures 16
EAN13 9781493438860
Langue English

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Half Title Page
Other Books by Mike Bechtle
It’s Better to Bite Your Tongue Than Eat Your Words
The People Pleaser’s Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself
Dealing with the Elephant in the Room
What Was He Thinking?
People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys
How to Communicate with Confidence
Evangelism for the Rest of Us
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2022 by Mike Bechtle
Published by Revell
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
Material adapted from How to Communicate with Confidence , published by Spire in 2013, originally published under the title Confident Conversation by Revell in 2008.
Ebook edition created 2022
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-3886-0
Baker Publishing Group publications use paper produced from sustainable forestry practices and post-consumer waste whenever possible.
To Marco God has given you an amazing gift of conversation. I’m so grateful that I get to experience it so often. I can’t wait to see how He will use you to impact the world!
Half Title Page 1
Other Books by Mike Bechtle 2
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Dedication 5
Introduction 15
Uniqueness: The Key Resource for Confidence 17
1. You can learn to communicate more effectively. 17
2. Embrace your personality as your superpower. 18
3. Your uniqueness is your most valuable asset. 19
4. Confidence happens one step at a time. 20
5. Learn to value the differences of others. 22
The Power of Empathy 23
6. Learn to accept others exactly the way they are. 23
7. Look at others through their filters. 24
8. Don’t let filters become barriers. 25
9. Don’t worry about who’s right or wrong; go for understanding. 27
Building Your Conversation Skills 29
10. Avoid tips and tricks that don’t fit your temperament. 29
11. Find conversational skills that work for introverts (if that’s you). 30
12. Find conversational skills that work for extroverts (if that’s you). 31
13. Change your self-talk. 31
14. Take responsibility for yourself—only. 33
15. You’re only responsible for what you bring to a conversation, not the outcome. 34
16. You don’t have to know everything about everything. 35
17. You can’t rush growth. 36
18. Learn the three approaches to a conversation. 37
Common Ground: The Key Ingredient for Confidence 39
19. Finding common ground makes it easy to start a conversation. 39
20. Exploring differences keeps a conversation moving forward. 40
21. Find common ground in shared experiences. 40
22. Recognize the benefits of common ground. 42
23. Prepare for any conversation. 43
Starting a Conversation 47
24. Don’t let assumptions stop a conversation before it starts. 47
25. Don’t assume your first impressions are true. 48
26. Make the first move. 49
27. Assume that others think you’re interesting. 50
28. Be willing to break the ice for others. 51
29. Initiate conversations, and you get to pick who you spend time with. 52
30. It’s easier to join a conversation with a group who’s already talking than to start one with an individual. 52
31. Share your name when connecting with someone you’ve met before; it takes the pressure off if they’ve forgotten. 53
32. When joining a group conversation, don’t do this. 54
33. When joining a group conversation, do this. 55
34. Use small talk to get to big talk. 56
35. When joining a group conversation, ask, “Am I intruding?” 56
36. Use a few conversational openers to start a conversation. 57
Continuing a Conversation 59
37. Be “in the moment” in each conversation. 59
38. Keep the conversation going. 59
39. Smile and make eye contact. 60
40. People’s names are important to them. 61
41. Become your own host at every gathering. 62
42. Focus on the other person to keep a conversation going. 62
43. Stay informed. 64
44. Stay focused. 65
45. Stay observant. 67
46. Give sincere compliments. 67
47. Practice deep, intentional listening. 68
48. Avoid conversational potholes. 69
49. Make someone’s day brighter. 70
50. Serve the other person. 71
Ending a Conversation 73
51. Choose the best time to finish a conversation. 73
52. Decide how to escape. 74
53. Strong endings come from having a clear purpose. 75
54. Practice verbal martial arts to steer an uncomfortable conversation. 76
55. End your conversation with grace. 77
56. Take advantage of group dynamics to leave a conversation. 79
57. Don’t make the first conversation a one-time event; build on it for the future. 80
58. Cultivate second conversations. 81
59. Be intentional about follow-up to continue a connection. 82
60. Make a quick, appropriate follow-up to every new conversation. 83
61. Make notes after an important conversation. 85
62. Organize the information you learn during conversations. 86
The Power of Listening 87
63. Give the gift of listening deeply. 87
64. Check your listening skills. 88
65. Learn how to tell if others are listening. 90
66. Learn to give accurate nonverbal and verbal signals. 92
67. If you don’t quite get what someone is saying, ask for clarification. 93
68. When you catch yourself not listening, admit it and reset. 94
Rethinking Stress 97
69. Harness the energy of conversational stress. 97
70. Change how you think about stress. 98
71. Challenge your negative expectations about how a conversation will go. 100
72. Make the most of your stress. 101
Curiosity: Your Never-Ending Vault of Topics 103
73. Commit to curiosity. 103
74. Practice the curiosity of a child. 104
75. Learn to see things from a different perspective. 105
76. Make curiosity a daily practice. 106
77. Learn to ask good questions. 107
78. Include open-ended questions in your conversations. 108
79. Learn to use questions effectively. 110
80. Refine your questions to keep the conversation on track. 112
81. Learn how to answer questions well. 114
Tough Conversations 117
82. Rather than debating when you disagree with someone’s position, explore for understanding. 117
83. Don’t ignore a rude comment; acknowledge it graciously and honestly. 118
84. When someone becomes angry or critical, recognize that there’s something deeper happening than what’s on the surface. 119
85. When someone complains constantly or pressures you to do something, respond simply. 121
86. When someone talks too much or constantly interrupts, learn to respond directly without coming down on them. 122
87. When your best efforts don’t work in a tough conversation, it’s OK to walk away. Just make it your last resort, not your first. 123
Attitude 125
88. Recognize the importance of attitude in making conversation with others. 125
89. Develop an attitude of caring for others. 126
90. Remember that you can’t control someone else; you can only control yourself—your attitude and choices. 127
91. To change your attitude, change your thoughts—which will eventually change your actions. 128
92. Nurture an attitude of gratefulness and contentment. 129
High-Tech Talking 131
93. Use technology as a tool to enhance conversations, not to replace them. 131
94. Know the advantages and disadvantages of digital communication. 132
95. Treat digital conversations with the same care as in-person conversations. 134
Fine-Tuning Your Skills 137
96. Avoid conversation killers. 137
97. Practice the things that nurture connection. 138
98. You’re only responsible for your side of the conversation, not how the other person responds. 140
99. Use an accurate mindset to build your conversational skills. 141
100. Remember that the best conversationalists didn’t start that way. They learned how, and you can too. 142
A Final Word 145
Acknowledgments 147
Notes 149
About the Author 151
Back Ads 153
Back Cover 156
You probably picked up this book because of the word confident in the title. You’ve had a lot of experience having conversations—some of which went well and some that didn’t. Unfortunately, you never seem to know which way they’re going to go.
Wouldn’t it be great to enter every conversation with confidence? You’d know what to say, what not to say, and how to be fully engaged in the dialogue. You’d know how to start a conversation, keep it going, and end it well. You would have mastered the basic skills that make every conversation effective, whether you’re talking to an introvert or an extrovert—and you would have overcome the self-defeating thoughts that get in the way. Most of all, you wouldn’t have to become something you’re not; you’d get to be you !
That’s the promise of this book: You’ll be able to communicate with confidence in any situation.
Read this book completely through to get a sense of how all the tips fit together. Then go back and focus on one tip each day, looking for opportunities to try them out in real relationships. There’s no rush; in fact, you’ll find the greatest impact by applying each one and mastering it before moving on to the next.
Welcome to the journey!
Uniqueness: The Key Resource for Confidence
1. You can learn to communicate more effectively.
Conversation is one of the basic tools for twenty-first-century living. Almost everything we do depends on it. We can’t buy a car, negotiate a business deal, or strengthen a relationship without conversation. When it’s done effectively, we get satisfying results. When it’s done ineffectively, we feel dissatisfied with the outcome.
But we don’t spend a lot of time trying to improve how we communicate. We’ll pay someone to help us improve our tennis game, learn photography, or develop our computer skills. B

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