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Cele Lalli, Editor-in-Chief of America’s #1 bridal magazine, answers all of your wedding etiquette questions. Getting ready for your wedding is tremendously exciting, and you’re going to have so many questions! But now you can have personalized advice at your fingertips from America’s foremost wedding expert. As Editor-in-Chief of Modern Bride, Cele Lalli has spent years helping couples make their dream weddings come true. Anticipating and solving today’s complications is her special domain. She can answer all your questions with tact, skill, and knowledge, giving you the advice you need on:

•Announcing the engagement

•Wording the invitations

•Sharing wedding expenses

•Choosing attendants

•Determining the guest list

•Selecting everyone’s attire

•Organizing the shower and bachelor bash

•Dealing with divorced parents

•Arranging interfaith, intercultural, and interracial weddings

•Planning long distance weddings

•Handling any special situations

•Personalizing the ceremony and reception

•Ensuring that the big day runs smoothly

In addition, over 125 quick tips covering the basics of wedding etiquette at a glance round out this invaluable guide. Modern Bride Guide to Etiquette is the perfect companion to Modern Bride Wedding Celebrations: The Complete Wedding Planner for Today’s Bride.

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Cele Goldsmith Lalli

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Publié par	Turner Publishing Company
Date de parution	01 avril 1993
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781620459546
Langue	English

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Modern Bride
Guide to Etiquette
Also available from Wiley s Modern Bride Library:
Modern Bride Wedding Celebrations
The Complete Wedding Planner for Today s Bride
by Cele Goldsmith Lalli and Stephanie H. Dahl
Modern Bride
Guide to Etiquette
Answers to the questions today s couples really ask
CELE GOLDSMITH LALLI Editor-in-Chief of Modern Bride
Interior Design and Composition: Impressions, a division of Edwards Brothers, Inc.
Cover Photography: 1993, Comstock, Inc.
Interior Illustration: Luann Roberts
MODERN BRIDE is a registered trademark of Reed Properties Inc. used under
license by Cahners Publishing Company.
This text is printed on acid-free paper.
Copyright 1993 by Cele Goldsmith Lalli Published by John Wiley Sons, Inc.
All rights reserved. Published simultaneously in Canada.
Reproduction or translation of any part of this work beyond that permitted by Section 107 or 108 of the 1976 United States Copyright Act without the permission of the copyright owner is unlawful. Requests for permission or further information should be addressed to the Permissions Department, John Wiley Sons, Inc.
This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering professional services. If legal, accounting, medical, psychological, or any other expert assistance is required, the services of a competent professional person should be sought. ADAPTED FROM A DECLARATION OF PRINCIPLES OF A JOINT COMMITTEE OF THE AMERICAN BAR ASSOCIATION AND PUBLISHERS.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Lalli, Cele Goldsmith, 1933-
Modem bride guide to etiquette: answers to the questions today s couples really ask / Cele Goldsmith Lalli.
p. cm.
Includes index.
ISBN 0-471-58299-9 (pbk.)
1. Wedding etiquette. 2. Weddings-Planning. I. Title.
BJ2051.L349 1993
395 .22-dc20 92-42166
10
To Viola W. Goldsmith, my extraordinary mother and role model .
To Michael, Francesca, and Erica Lalli, my husband and daughters, for their unconditional love and encouragement .
To Stephanie H. Dahl, my colleague and dear friend, who is always therefor me .
Acknowledgments
I extend my thanks to the thousands of readers of Modern Bride who have looked to me for advice throughout the years. This book is the result of that correspondence. In addition, I am grateful for the cooperation and support given to me by the following: Howard Friedberg, Joel Ehrlich, Mike Tucker, Gail Altsher Jasne, Mary Ann Cavlin, Nancy Davis, Martine Aerts-Niddam, Linda Magloire Wolfe, Elyse Salman Spiewak, Carolyn Bartel, Margaret Schell, Linda Hirst, Geri Bain, Laurel Cardone, Debbra Gill, Lisa Moore Cusick, Jihan Kim, Michele Aurora, Suzanne Oppenheimer, Paul Rodina, Kristen O Rourke, Melanie Kubat Rush, Lisa Marmorato, Kim Lanciloti, Allan Dexheimer, and Drew Reid Kerr.
A special note of appreciation goes to my editor, Judith N. McCarthy, for her very constructive suggestions based on her own recent wedding and those of so many of her colleagues and friends.
Preface
Wedding planning today is more complicated than it was when our parents were at this happy point in their lives. Currently, greater mobility; higher levels of education; relocation away from where the bride- and groom-to-be grew up; stress in the work place; economic restraints; limited leisure time; divorce and remarriage among parents; interfaith, intercultural, interracial marriage; as well as remarriage for the bride and/or groom, have all contributed to a need for individualization and greater personalization of each couple s arrangements. The result is that there are no absolute criteria for the perfect wedding; the goal is rather to plan your perfect wedding.
Every day letters arrive with questions about how to deal with complications that used to be the exception, but now have become the rule. This book addresses the commonality of pressures faced by today s engaged couples. It covers the gamut from ordinary confusion because the bride-to-be has never read an etiquette book to outright hysteria because nothing is going right. It is intended to provide practical solutions to help the couple and those they love come to realistic and constructive compromises that will get them all to the wedding in the spirit of joyful celebration, which is what this rite of passage is all about.
I hope that you will find the answers to all of your questions between these covers, so that when the big day arrives you will be able to savor every precious moment. With that end in mind, you and your fiance should commit yourselves to making certain that your wedding is the best wedding you will ever attend!
Congratulations and good luck.
Cele Goldsmith Lalli
Editor-in-Chief
Modern Bride
Contents
1 - Engagement
Telling Family and Friends
The Ring
Length of Engagement
Newspaper Announcements
Parties and Presents
Postponed or Broken Engagements
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Engagement Guidelines
2 - Budgeting
Who Pays for What?
Allocating Expenses
How to Stretch Your Wedding Dollars
Hiring a Wedding Consultant
How Much Should You Spend on Your Dress?
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Budgeting Guidelines
3 - Taking Control
Selecting the Date
Choosing a Wedding Style
Handling Buttinskies
Determining Who Does What
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Ways to Keep It Your Wedding
4 - Invitations Announcements
Compiling the Guest List
Choosing the Invitations
Bride s Parents Hosting
Divorced and Remarried Parents Hosting
Divorced but Not Remarried Parents Hosting
Parents Co-Hosting
The Couple Hosting
Addressing Invitations
Invitation to Ceremony or Reception Only
Sending Announcements
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Hints on Invitations and Announcements
5 - Attendants
The Bride s Attendants
Bridesmaids Attire
Mom as Honor Attendant
Bride s Attendants Duties
The Groom s Attendants
Groom s Attendants Duties
Children in the Wedding
Pregnant Attendants
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Attendant Etiquette
6 - What to Wear
The Bride s Attire
Headpiece, Veil, and Accessories
Full-Figured Styles
Petite Bride
Wedding Dress Rental
Preserving Your Gown
The Groom s Attire
Mothers Dresses
Fathers Attire
Guests Attire
What to Wear
7 - Choosing Resources
Choosing the Photographer and Videographer
Choosing Ceremony Musicians
Choosing the Reception Musicians
Choosing the Florist
Transportation
Dealing with Legal Issues
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Hints on Choosing Resources
8 - Guest Accommodations
Arrangements for Out-of-Towners
Parking and Other Amenities
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Ways to Accommodate Your Guests
9 - The Ceremony
Finding an Officiant
Personalizing Your Service
Wedding Rings
Seating
Escorting the Bride
Order of Processional and Recessional
Interfaith Accommodations
Candlelight and Candle-Lighting
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Planning the Ceremony of Your Dreams
10 - The Reception
Choosing the Location
Choosing the Caterer
Menu Options
Receiving Line
Seating Options
Schedule of Events
Wedding Cake
Smoking and Allergies
Other Quandaries
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Making the Reception Worry Free
11 - Specialty Weddings
Destination Weddings
Remarriage
Military Weddings
Long-Distance Weddings
Garden or At-Home Weddings
Marrying Abroad
Double Weddings
Holiday and Theme Weddings
Reaffirmation
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Hints on Specialty Weddings
12 - Related Parties
Showers
Bridal Luncheon
Bachelor Bash
Rehearsal Festivities
Pre- and Post-Wedding Receptions
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Party Etiquette
13 - All About Gifts
The Bridal Gift Registry
Displaying Gifts
Cash and Other Alternatives
Gifts for Attendants
Gifts for Each Other and Parents
Thank-You Notes
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Handling Gifts
14 - Special Situations
Dealing with Divorced Parents
Parents Who Object to the Wedding
The Pregnant Bride
Teen Marriage
Different Cultures
Ethnic Traditions and Customs
Participation of Loved Ones with a Disability
Combining Another Family Milestone with Your Wedding
Conflicting Wedding Dates
Remembering Deceased Relatives
Alcoholism
Other Quandaries
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Handling Special Situations
15 - Your Honeymoon
Where to Go
How to Plan
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Honeymoon Hints
16 - Wedding Stress
When Enough Is Enough!
Give Yourselves a Break
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Keeping Stress to a Minimum
17 - Your New Life
The Name Question
Premarital Agreement
Living with Parents
Money: Mine, Yours, Ours!
You Work, He Works, Who Does the Housework?
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Your New Life Together
18 - Groom s Questions
Taking the Initiative
Not Just a Prop
Quick Tips for the Modern Bride:
Hints for the Groom
Resources
Index
Modern Bride
Guide to Etiquette
C HAPTER 1
Engagement
Telling Family and Friends
I became engaged a week ago and plan to be married in 20 months. When should we put the engagement announcement in the newspaper? Do I submit it just to our local paper or to newspapers where other friends and relatives will see it?
You may announce your engagement as soon as you and your fiance are officially engaged and start making plans for the wedding. The announcement indicates the month in which the wedding will take place, however far in the future that may be. Send the information to your hometown newspaper and to your fianc s local paper. If you and your fianc are living and working elsewhere, you may want it to appear in that newspaper as well.
If there is no engagement party, should I send engagement announcements to relatives and friends?
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