CHILDREN’S AGGRESSION – IT IS IMPORTANT TO KNOW

&+,/'5(1¶6 $**5(66,2N±IT IS IMPORTANT TO KNOW It is a fact that sometimes our children behave aggressively. They get upset, start toyell, hit, push and throw things. And this behavior begins to happen from an early age. The first impulse of the adults in such moments is to stop thebad behavior by punishing the child, in order to show them that this is inappropriate and it should not be repeated in the future. Imagine thatyour child is hittingchild another because they pulled their toy away. If we intervene in that moment andyell orpunish the child, we will add more anger to their initial anger from losing thetoyin that case it is and most likely thatthe child will redirect that anger towards theparent. As a result, not onlythat we did not stopthe bad behavior, but there is a chance for it to escalate to a huge scandal. What should we do in that case? /HW¶V ORRN DW LW WKLV ZD\ 7KH RQH WKLQJLQ FRPPRQ WR DOO IRUPV RI DJJUHVVLYH EHKDYLRU LV WKH IROORZLQJ in that moment the aggressive child is feeling a negative emotion. Maybe the child felt offended, upset, scared or ashamed. Any emotionfrom the negative spectrum could cause an aggressive behavior in children(this applies to adults as well). The mistake we often make is that we tryto deal with thebad behaviorinstead of dealing withthe emotion which is the root cause for the behavior. The stronger the emotion, the more ineffective are our attempts to curb the bad behavior. People cannot control their emotions.