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Dan and Danielle Bean, married for 25 years and veteran parents of 8 children, offer a modern take on an ancient idea: in marriage, we are called to something greater than ourselves. What can that mean in a modern world that abhors sacrifice, rejects the concept of permanence, and devalues the sacrament of marriage?Pulling from the wisdom of the Church and lessons learned from their own real-life experience, Dan and Danielle reflect on the ideas of: Vocation, Sacrament, Sacrifice, Mutual Love, And Home and Family Life.With personal stories, humor, touching insight, and practical suggestions, they offer complementary reflections, as husband and wife, on the value and meaning of marriage for Christians today.This book also features a rich collection of Catholic marriage resources, including: Prayers for Marriage, Teachings of the Church, Scripture for Marriage and Family, Wisdom from the Saints, And Hymns.A thoughtful gift for engaged couples and newlyweds, this book is also a practical resource that can inspire and rejuvenate long-married and even struggling couples.

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Publié par	TAN Books
Date de parution	05 juin 2020
Nombre de lectures	1
EAN13	9781505116649
Langue	English

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MANUAL FOR MARRIAGE

Dan and Danielle Bean
TAN • BOOKS
Gastonia, North Carolina
Part One Introductory Essay © 2020 Dan and Danielle Bean
Part Two Compilation © 2020 TAN Books
All rights reserved. With the exception of short excerpts used in critical review, no part of this work may be reproduced, transmitted, or stored in any form whatsoever without the prior written permission of the publisher.
Excerpts from the English translation of the Catechism of the Catholic Church for use in the United States of America copyright © 1994, United States Catholic Conference, Inc.—Libreria Editrice Vaticana. Used with permission.
All excerpts from papal homilies, messages, and encyclicals copyright © Libreria Editrice Vaticana. All rights reserved. Used by permission.
Unless otherwise noted or in text quoted from other sources, Scripture quotations are from the Revised Standard Version of the Bible—Second Catholic Edition (Ignatius Edition), copyright © 2006 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
Excerpts from Bede Jarrett Anthology, ©2013 Dominicans, Province of Saint Albert the Great, U.S.A. Used by permission.
Except where otherwise acknowledged, prayers and other texts have been taken from a variety of print and online sources and are believed to be in the public domain.
ISBN: 978-1-5051-1662-5
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PRESENTED TO
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Date / Occasion
Personal Note
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To our children, proof of God’s abundant blessings in marriage: Kateri, Eamon, Ambrose, Juliette, Stephen, Gabrielle, Raphael, and Daniel
The most extraordinary thing in the world is an ordinary man and an ordinary woman and their ordinary children.
G. K. C HESTERTON
CONTENTS
Publisher’s Note
Part One: Made in Heaven: The Extraordinary Vocation to Marriage
Introduction
  1 Marriage as Vocation
  2 Marriage as Sacrament
  3 Two Become One
  4 Love Is a Choice
  5 Mutual Love
  6 Home and Family Life
Part Two: Wisdom and Prayers for Marriage
  7 Wisdom of the Church
From Councils and Conferences
From the Catechism
From the Popes
  8 Scripture for Marriage and Family
Marriage and Family
Love and Friendship
Virtue in Marriage
  9 Holy Men and Women
Saints
Venerables and Blesseds
Faithful Scholars
10 Prayers
For Parents
For the Family
Hymns
PUBLISHER’S NOTE
t is our hope that this Manual for Marriage may be a great blessing to many couples, newlyweds as well as those married for decades. We would particularly like to extend our thanks to New Priory Press, the publishing arm of the Dominican Friars, Province of Saint Albert the Great, for the magnificent work they have done in bringing the wonderful anthology of the writing of Bede Jarrett, OP, back into print in a handsome new edition. Father Jarrett’s reflections on matrimony are beautiful, realistic, and timeless, and the New Priory Press has done a great service to the Church and to English letters in making his reflections available to a new generation. The Anthology and the other books they publish may be seen at their website www.newpriorypress.com .
PART ONE
Made in Heaven: The Extraordinary Vocation to Marriage
INTRODUCTION
manual for marriage? Well, we certainly can’t write this book.
We have been married for twenty-five years. After we recently agreed to write this book, though, we put off planning the outline because the timing didn’t feel right. We were still not quite getting along after that thing that happened the other day. You know, that thing where one of us used a tone the other one didn’t like, or one of us said a dumb thing that upset the other person, or one of us forgot to say thank you or asked a question in an annoying way. We can’t remember exactly what it was all about, but it felt like important stuff at the time.
But maybe that kind of messiness is exactly why we can write this book. And should. There are enough books out there to tell you what a glorious, beautiful thing Christian marriage is. And it is. There are plenty of books that will describe an ideal Christian marriage to you, but perhaps not enough that acknowledge the kind of tough, heroic work that happens in the everyday living out of a vocation to love another person for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do you part.
The intimate daily living between two human beings is indeed a glorious thing, but it’s a perilous thing too. It’s important to acknowledge that. Whether you are preparing to be married, are newly married, or have been married for ten, twenty-five, fifty years, or more, it’s important to recognize that our goal is heaven and our spouse is God’s plan for getting us there. Because we are human beings struggling our way through God’s divine plan, though, there are going to be some missteps along the way. In fact, the flaws and the missteps are exactly why God gave us the gift of marriage—the indissoluble gift of together forever—in the first place.
In our research for writing this book, the writings of Father Bede Jarrett, OP, especially inspired and encouraged us. In Bede Jarrett Anthology, Father Jarrett writes about the vocation of marriage in a delightfully honest and insightful way that still has deep meaning for us as married Christians today. In the coming pages, we will share some of Father Jarrett’s principles, reflect on the ways we strive to follow them in our marriage, and encourage you to consider how these apply to your own call to the vocation of marriage.
Where might God be inviting you to stretch and grow, as a man, as a woman, and as couple? What might God’s plan be to use you, your spouse, and your marriage for his greater glory? How is he calling you home to heaven through the beautiful, imperfect person he gave you to love and cherish, till death do you part?
We will look at the ideas of vocation, sacrament, sacrificial love, complementarity, unbreakable bonds, and home and family life. In each of these sections, we will share individually from a wife’s perspective and from a husband’s perspective, and together we will share practical points you can put into practice starting right now. Because it’s important to start right now.
You might be just beginning to consider the call to marriage. You might be quite content in your marriage right now, enjoying some of the “ups” of the ups and downs of normal married life. Or you might be suffering some of the “downs,” struggling through hard times or reeling from the wounds of a broken, or breaking, relationship.
Wherever this book finds you, it’s important to recognize that the call to marriage is ongoing. Marriage is a call we must hear and respond to again and again, over and over, getting it right, and then messing it up, and then getting it right again. Marriage can be a mess, and it can be beautifully perfect. It’s simple, and it’s complex. It’s easy, and it’s hard. It’s all of these things for all of us generally, but it’s all of these things uniquely in your own marriage too.
St. Francis de Sales reminds us, “You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; and just so, you learn to love by loving. All those who think to learn in any other way deceive themselves.” 1
Let’s talk about some of the things all marriages have in common so that we can apply them in our own unique married relationships. Together, let’s learn what it means to love.
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1 Louis DelFra, 5 Minutes with the Saints: More Spiritual Nourishment for Busy Teachers (Ave Maria Press, 2014).
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MARRIAGE AS VOCATION
Danielle
ocation is a concept that is foreign to many in our modern world. The idea that God made each of us for another is not something you are likely to read about in Cosmopolitan magazine. The world teaches instead that we are made for ourselves and that we should seek whatever “makes us happy” in life.
The ironic thing is that, ultimately, what truly “makes us happy” is doing what God wills for us, and what God wills for each of us is that we give ourselves to another. In marriage, we give ourselves to another person, or in a vocation to the religious life or the priesthood, we give ourselves to God and the Church. God himself modeled a life of self-giving love when Jesus carried his cross, and then was nailed to it. He bled and died on that cross out of love for each of us. What clearer example of giving oneself to another could there be?
Of course, each of us is made for our Creator. We are meant ultimately to give ourselves to God, but the smaller ways that we give ourselves to others while here on earth are a beautiful reflection of that ultimate truth and the very means by which God draws us closer to that union with him. If you are called to the vocation of marriage, you are not made for yourself; you are made for your spouse.
It can be easy to think of “vocation” as somehow different from what we are called to in married life. When we see a nun take vows and enter a convent, or a priest take vows and embrace service to the Church, we see how their commitment is life-changing and all-encompassing. But the call within marriage can seem different from that. After all, we can get married and then still have our jobs, friends, homes, hobbies, and bank accounts.
And yet, as Father Jarrett writes, “God has his own designs for each one of us. Each of us has his own way of life. The married life is as much a vocation as the life of the cloister, and marriage should dominate the life of the married as the life of the cloister dominates the life of a nun.” 2
Does your marriage dominate your life? I found these words challenging to read. We should live every day inside