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Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.
Sample Book Insights:
#1 Sherrie’s son, Todd, was a strong-willed child who didn’t listen to her or his father. She didn’t want to quench his spirit, so she didn’t want to stop him from doing whatever he wanted.
#2 The author’s life was similar to Lois’s every day. She would listen to people’s problems, consol them, and give advice, but never received any in return.
#3 The author’s friend, Sherrie, was always described as dependable by people who wanted something from her. Sounds like a description of a good mule. Sherrie began to resent having to help her friend, and secretly wished she could be transplanted to another flower pot.
#4 When Todd’s third-grade teacher noticed that he was always on task when he was interested in the subject, she wondered if Todd had an attention- deficit problem or was just hyperactive. But when she tested him, he came out normal.

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Religion

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Christian Living

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Publié par	Everest Media LLC
Date de parution	04 mai 2022
Nombre de lectures	0
EAN13	9781669382355
Langue	English
Poids de l'ouvrage	1 Mo

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Insights on Henry Cloud & John Townsend's Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition
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#1

Sherrie’s son, Todd, was a strong-willed child who didn’t listen to her or his father. She didn’t want to quench his spirit, so she didn’t want to stop him from doing whatever he wanted.

#2

The author’s life was similar to Lois’s every day. She would listen to people’s problems, consol them, and give advice, but never received any in return.

#3

The author’s friend, Sherrie, was always described as dependable by people who wanted something from her. Sounds like a description of a good mule. Sherrie began to resent having to help her friend, and secretly wished she could be transplanted to another flower pot.

#4

When Todd’s third-grade teacher noticed that he was always on task when he was interested in the subject, she wondered if Todd had an attention- deficit problem or was just hyperactive. But when she tested him, he came out normal.

#5

Sherrie had a difficult time getting her daughter, Amy, to participate in family dinners. She was a very lovable and sensitive child, but she preferred to spend her time reading, painting, or just sitting in her bedroom thinking about stuff.

#6

The second voice in Sherrie’s head was the habit of responding unquestioningly to it. It was too strong to be ignored. Sherrie had learned to respond to it, just like she did to her mother’s and Phyllis’s voices.

#7

Sherrie’s marriage was no longer a team, but a parent-child relationship. She could hear it in Walt’s sarcastic tone when she had a complaint, and saw it in the lack of respect in his eyes when she tried to tell him about her need for more support.

#8

Sherrie’s solution was to Loving Walt Out of His Anger. She learned to read her husband’s emotions and tones, and would wait until he was asleep before talking to him.

#9

The inability to set boundaries is one of the most serious problems facing Christians today. Many sincere, dedicated believers struggle with tremendous confusion about when it is biblically appropriate to set limits.

#10

Boundaries are important in every aspect of life, and they are especially important in relationships. This book will help you understand the biblical nature of boundaries and how to use them appropriately to achieve the relationships and purposes God intended for you.

#11

The parents of a 25-year-old man came to see me. They had tried everything they knew to get him to change and live a responsible life, but all had failed. They loved their son very much, but he was still using drugs, avoiding responsibility, and keeping questionable company.

#12

Boundaries are important in the physical world, but even more so in the spiritual world. They help you maintain your soul and guard it from harm.

#13

Boundaries define us and help us determine what is ours and what isn’t. We are not responsible for other people, for example, and we must protect our boundaries to avoid being confused about what we are and aren’t responsible for.

#14

We are responsible to others and for ourselves. We must determine what me is, where my boundary of responsibility is, and where someone else’s begins.

#15

Boundaries help us distinguish our property so that we can take care of it. They help us guard our heart with all diligence. We need to keep things that will nurture us inside our fences and keep things that will harm us outside them.

#16

The concept of boundaries comes from the nature of God. God defines himself as a distinct, separate being, and he is responsible for himself. He defines and takes responsibility for his personality by telling us what he thinks, feels, plans, allows, will not allow, likes, and dislikes.

#17

The most basic boundary that defines you is your physical skin. It protects your blood and bones, and it keeps germs outside, protecting you from infection. It also keeps good things inside and bad things outside.

#18

The most basic boundary-setting word is no. It lets others know that you exist apart from them and that you are in control of you. Your words also define your property for others as you communicate your feelings, intentions, or dislikes.

#19

To be in touch with God’s truth is to be in touch with reality, and to live in accordance with that reality makes for a better life. Satan is the great distorter of reality, and many people live chaotic and troubled lives trying to live outside their own boundaries.

#20

When dealing with an abusive person, you must create space between you two to show them that your boundaries are real. The Bible supports the idea of limiting togetherness for the sake of binding evil.

#21

Taking time off from a person or a project can be a way of regaining ownership over an out-of-control aspect of your life where boundaries need to be set.

#22

Emotional distance is a temporary boundary to give your heart the space it needs to be safe. It is never a permanent way of living. People who have been in abusive relationships need to find a safe place to begin to thaw out emotionally.

#23

You need to depend on others to help you set and keep boundaries. People who have been subject to another person’s addictions, control, or abuse are finding that they can only create boundaries by joining a support group.

#24

Boundaries are meant to be backed up with consequences. This helps people understand the importance of following them, and it teaches them that our commitment to living according to helpful values is something we value and will fight to protect and guard.

#25

The story of the good Samaritan is a good example of correct behavior in many dimensions. It is a good illustration of boundaries, when they should be both observed and violated.

#26

Feelings are important, and the Bible says to own them and be aware of them. They can motivate you to do good. But they must not be ignored or placed in charge.

#27

Boundary problems are often caused by distorted attitudes about responsibility. People with boundary problems feel that to hold others accountable for their actions and feelings is mean. However, Proverbs says that setting limits and accepting responsibility will save lives.

#28

The law of sowing and reaping applies to all of us, whether we are adults or children. If we study, we will reap good grades. If we go to work, we will get a paycheck. If we exercise, we will be in better health.

#29

We need to take responsibility for our choices. We are the ones who make them, and we must live with their consequences. We may be keeping ourselves from making the choices we could be happy with.

#30

We must take responsibility for our out-of-control behavior caused by loving the wrong things or valuing things that have no lasting value. We must confess that we have a heart that values things that will not satisfy, and we can receive help from God and his people to change those values.

#31

We must set limits on others, but we must also set limits on ourselves. We must have spaces inside ourselves where we can have a feeling, an impulse, or a desire without acting it out.

#32

The parable of the talents illustrates God-ordained responsibility for ownership and stewardship of our resources. We are happier and more productive when we are exercising our gifts and being productive. It takes work, practice, learning, prayer, and grace to overcome the fear of failure that the wicked and lazy servant gave in to.

#33

We must own our own thoughts, grow in knowledge and expand our minds, and clarify distorted thinking. We all have a tendency not to see things clearly, to think and perceive in distorted ways. We must check out where we may be wrong.

#34

We must actively seek our desires from God. We must own our desires and pursue them to find fulfillment in life. If we are wanting something to feed our pride or to enhance our ego, it’s doubtful that God is interested in giving it to us.

#35

We need to take responsibility for how we respond to love. We need to use our loving heart, but we must also take care of it. It is a trust muscle that needs to be exercised and used.

#36

Boundary problems can be difficult to identify, but they are often the result of not respecting others’ limits. People who don’t respect others’ limits also have boundary problems.

#37

The inability to say no to the bad is pervasive. It keeps us from refusing evil in our lives, and it often keeps us from recognizing evil. Many compliant people realize too late that they’re in a dangerous or abusive relationship.